Discover how I stopped binge eating forever, without therapy or restrictive diets.
You have health and fitness goals that you want to hit:
You set resolution after resolution and promise to change, but nothing ever happens. By January 3rd, you’re back to your old ways, despite all the promises you made on December 31st. This year, this week, this time was going to be different. You had such high expectations, but then you were disappointed again.
You feel like there’s a block between you and your vision of what you could be. How do you get around it?
You’re constantly sabotaging yourself. You say you want to do one thing and then do the other.
You feel like you have no control sometimes. What’s going on here?
You try every diet: keto, paleo, vegan. You get the personal trainers. You buy fancy kitchen equipment. You eat spirulina and matcha powder and all the other fancy ingredients. You have avocado toast in the morning and your $8 protein shake after CrossFit.
The problem between you and your goals is easy to identify: overeating, and sometimes binge eating.
No matter how hard you try to stop doing this, nothing ever seems to work.
The effects are palpable. Look in the mirror, feel your pants, step on the scale, look at your refrigerator, pinch your skin.
Your body is giving you feedback.
You know where you are now. You’re not happy with it. You’re not satisfied. You know you could be doing better.
You step on the scale. You see a number. You can’t believe it.
You look at your wedding photos or past photos of yourself and you don’t even recognize yourself.
You look in your closet. You see a pair of pants. They still have the tags on them. You bought them thinking you would wear them soon. You knew you were going to drop a few pounds. That last New Year’s resolution was going to change everything.
Except, it didn’t. Nothing changed.
Then you ask,
“Portion sizes served at fast food restaurants have increased significantly since the 1970s. Sodas have increased by 49 calories, French fries by 68 calories, and hamburgers by 97 calories.”
-Robert Lustig, Fat Chance
Your great-great-great-great (x100) grandma wasn’t interested in losing weight or looking sexy in a bikini. Her goal was survival.
Your brain is a survival machine. It doesn’t care how you look or how well you impress your friends. It wants you to live another day.
It's no wonder meeting your health and fitness goals so hard. With so many stimuli, advertisements, and tasty options available, it’s harder than ever to control what you eat, make smart choices, and maintain a healthy body weight.
As a result, overeating and binge eating and obesity have become epidemics.
Not only does this have serious physical repercussions, but it also emotional ones as well: the feeling that you’re out of control, that you have no willpower, that you have no self-control. Those are awful feelings.
Then there’s the secrecy. You never tell anybody what you do when you’re not in front of people (eating an entire pint of ice cream). That would be too painful.
Listen, if this sounds familiar, don’t worry. You’re not the only one. I’m basically describing my life for 10 years. You’re in the right place.
Even if you’ve tried every diet, you have diagnosed yourself with a “bad metabolism,” you gain weight by looking at food, you have a bad relationship with food, you’ve been struggling for a long time, you feel out of control, or you have no willpower, there is still hope.
The fact is, if you’re reading this, you probably have gone on a diet yourself.
Most think that it’s a matter of resolve or willpower and if you just try hard enough then you could overcome cravings and control what you eat.
But research has consistently shown that people have a finite amount of willpower.
Here’s my question: if willpower is finite, can you rely on that to get you to your goal/reach goals?
“despite what most people assume, a lack of self-control is not why people become fat and “harnessing” willpower is not the way to become thin/”
- Traci Mann, weight loss and eating scientist at University of Minnesota
The world doesn’t need another diet program. In fact, it needs to eliminate most of them.
The world doesn’t need more gurus and physicians wagging their fingers at people telling them what to eat and what not to eat.
The world doesn’t need more magazines, more books, more videos with more “weight loss secrets” and “weight loss tips.”
What you need is a program that will set you on the right path for good.
The problem with diets is that they work against the brain, not with the brain.
You can have all the information in the world, but without the right information, you’re not going to see any real changes.
As long as you’re working against the brain, you will lose every time.
That’s why despite millions of gym memberships, hundreds of new diet books every year, access to tons of information on health and nutrition, the rate of overweight and obesity continue to rise.
Clearly, something more than education, information, and treadmills is needed to tackle this crisis.
I’m not going to start a diet war here. Each of these diets have their own advantages and disadvantages. But they all depend on your ability to control what you eat and say no when you want to say yes. They only work when you show that ability to control yourself. Otherwise, a vegan diet of potato chips, soda, and vegan cookies is no healthier than the standard American diet. And a keto diet filled with tons of butter, cream, and cheese will leave you heavier than before.
The worst solution of all, and the sadly, the most common. I guess it’s a natural reaction to gaining weight. This is a wrong approach, and dieting might even be leading to the obesity crisis worldwide. Dieting might be the biggest hazard no one is talking about.
Dieting is a short-term solution at best. You want to look good for that wedding in one month? Sure, go on a diet. Want to feel good, have freedom and finally eat with control for the rest of your month? Then don’t do it.
If you watch YouTube or TV, you would think this is the secret to health and longevity. Listen, IF is great. I do it myself sometimes, but was it the ultimate answer to all my problems? No, not even close. It’s a good habit but nothing more. I fasted, lost weight, and only regained it. It doesn’t take a lot of time to binge and eat a ton of food. Some people even gain weight on IF. This isn’t the end-all be-all.
What you need is a system of making decisions that you can implement all day every day for the rest of your life.
Closely related to dieting is this idea to “cut out” everything. When people try to lose weight fast, they do it by cutting out anything with flavor (or calories). This only works for a while, but willpower is limited. What happens when people cut out sugar and flour forever? They binge, regain weight, feel worse, and then diet again. Why cut out everything when you don’t need to?
As a former personal trainer a physical therapist today, I’m a huge proponent of exercise. Hell, I teach it for a living. But I want to make it clear that exercise alone will not solve a bad diet. You only have so much time to spend in the gym. Use exercise the right way, not the wrong way. Besides, do you really want to make your gym a second home? I’m sure you have better things to do.
It’s easy to fall for the willpower myth, but I’ve established that it won’t work. So, what’s the answer?
Self-awareness means you know what you’re doing and more importantly, why you’re doing it.
When you take the time, even just a second, to understand why you’re doing something, what emotions you’re feeling, and what your options are, it changes everything.
When you’re aware of what you’re feeling and where your emotions are coming from, then you don’t have to use willpower to beat a craving.
Being aware allows you to be more proactive, which means you take action before you get the craving or the thought. When you’re reactive, you take action after the craving. When you’re proactive, you take control. When you’re reactive, you’re always responding.
When I was 20-years-old, I decided to become the healthiest version of myself. I changed my diet, made fitness my priority, and ate a really clean diet. I ended up wrecking my life and health for the next 10 years.
I tried every solution and hack to stop binge eating, purging, excessive fasting, and dieting. I finally did figure out a way to overcome it all, but it was a long and painful process. It caused me a lot of stress, doubt, anxiety, and it affected every aspect of my life.
I started as a personal trainer in my early 20’s and then became a physical therapist, then a coach to help others eat right, lose weight, take control of their lives, and get fit again. What a journey.
I’m on a personal mission to help as many people as possible to stop overeating, conquer cravings, and take control of their bodies.
In my free time, I like to work out, make YouTube videos, read, learn, dance, travel, take Spanish lessons.
I didn’t need to do any of that. In fact, when I lost my weight and regained control of what I ate, I ate the following:
I violated every rule of weight loss of nutrition. I defiled the health and fitness industry. I cheated every day. I ate all those carbs, all that sugar, and raised my insulin a million times! You know what? It didn’t matter, because I followed the principles I teach in the Empowered Eating System, like:
And if they’re so simple, then why aren’t you applying them? Application is the hard part, but there is a way, and I’m going to show you.
The truth is your brain doesn’t like change. Your brain is kind of lazy. It likes to do things the same way and it resists change. Anyone who has ever tried to change a habit can attest to this.
But the EES will give your brain a kick in the ass and make it do things that it doesn’t want to do.
This isn’t a program filled with meal plans, grocery lists, and more theory. It’s a program designed to rewire your brain and your habits so that you can overcome destructive, unhealthy habits, and lose some of the weight, automatically.
I will NOT accept anyone or everyone with a credit card. I’ll gladly sacrifice profits to protect my program’s reputation and success rate. If I have any reason to believe you’re not qualified, you’re going to challenge everything I say, not going to do the work, going to complain, or whatever, I will turn you down. Believe me, there are plenty of other quacks and gurus willing to take you, for a fee of course.
This program isn’t for everyone. I have a unique message, a unique take, a unique background, and some of the things I say are controversial and sometimes offensive. That’s me, and I’m not changing for anyone.
Lead you on a path to permanent recovery. This isn’t a 60-day quick fix. This isn’t the Biggest Loser (who all regained their weight, BTW). Apply these principles forever. My goal is to make this the last diet program you will ever buy. Trust me, if this isn’t it, I don’t know what is. However, I’m pretty sure Dr. Atkins isn’t it.
End the food struggle once and for all. If you’ve been struggling with cravings for years, you know how exhausting it is. Every frickin’ day is a struggle. How many calories will I eat today? Will I ever reach my goal? Will today be a good day or a bad day? Will I blow it again? Will I be able to control myself at the party today?
That you will never binge, overeat, purge, or lose control again. If you didn’t lose weight, wouldn’t that be a great thing? I’d rather weigh more and eat with control than to be a bulimic lingerie model. Maybe that’s just me. But binging and purging to maintain a low body weight will absolutely make you miserable and unhappy.
That you will never need to diet again. Once you realize how destructive dieting is, you will probably never want to do it. But I designed EES to be the “diet” to end all diets. No celery juice, wheatgrass, or butter coffee with EES.
“Whether you think you will succeed or fail, you’re right”- Henry Ford.
If you think you’re going to fail on EES, you’re right. You will. You have to give yourself permission to try and see if it works. You have to believe that there is a 1% chance that you will succeed, you should do it. Now, I think you have a much better chance than 1%, but you should do anything and everything in your power to end this.
Life is short and art is long. In other words, if you lived forever, you could learn everything you needed to learn, but the truth is, your life is shorter than you think. The older you get, the faster it goes (at least that’s what they tell me). Why waste it on a struggle to eat right?
Blasphemy! Leave now! I’m kidding. EES is the solution to diet programs. In fact, I’m against all diets. I don’t promote any particular diet, fads, or trends. They all have their merits, but I don’t they are the answer for most people. I don’t like the tribalism that these diets tend to promote. Diets assume that you are capable of adhering to the diet, which most often is not the case. EES is less about weight loss and more about brain control. When you can control the brain, you can eat any diet you want.
Listen, I’m not against reading books about nutrition and eating right. I’ve gotten some of my ideas from those books. But you know what? The more books I read, the worse my problem became. No one book solved my problem. Same for business. I didn’t read a book about business and start a business and know everything I needed to know. I had to hire consultants and buy programs to get where I am now. You get what you pay for.
Not only that, but most diet books are filled with misinformation “carbs make you fat,” “do keto,” “eat this, not that” blah blah blah. Most of the information is contradictory anyway. You could spend your whole life sorting it out. Don’t you have better things to do?
How many diet books do you have on your shelves (or on your e-reader?) I bet it’s more than one.
I ask because you don’t need more information. What you need is a system that will help you eat with total freedom. I cannot emphasize how important it is to have the right system in place.
You can read a book, but what is that going to do for you?
At the depth of my struggle, I had probably spent over 1000 hours (at least, that’s a low-ball estimate) reading about nutrition and eating right. More information wasn’t my answer. If information were the answer, everybody would be in great shape and I wouldn’t be writing this letter to you.
I know how that feels. Every time you go forward one step, you go backwards two steps.
But do you want to know why you keep failing and you can’t succeed?
Do you want to know why you can’t control what you eat?
It’s easy to believe that if you just had more willpower, if you were the Incredible Hulk (who looks like he binges himself!) or Bruce Wayne, then you wouldn’t have this problem.
I hate to break it to you, but more willpower isn’t your answer. Your willpower tank is only so big, and you can only add so much willpower. You can build it with certain exercises, but willpower alone isn’t the answer, and I have the research to prove it.
I only mention these three because they’re the most popular right now. All three of these diets work to the extent that they make you eat less and keep your hand out of the cookie jar. But let me give you an example:
If you eat a pound of cheese, you’ve eaten no carbs, but you’ve still binged, and you’ve still eaten a calorie bomb. Sorry, Keto.
If you eat a pound of nuts (or how about peanut butter- my nemesis for years!), which is permitted on the paleo diet, and wash it down with a stick of butter in your coffee, you’ve just binged. Sorry, Paleo
If you eat a bag of corn chips, a carton of soy ice cream, and vegan cookies, and wash it down with a large bottle of soda, you’ve just binged. Sorry, vegans.
See what I mean? There’s always something you can binge on or overeat!
Sure, each diet limits your options, but all you need is one bad option to derail your diet.
Each of these diets can be kind of cultish, by the way. It’s almost religion. Don’t make your diet your identity.
Adopting any sort of specific diet is a bad idea in general. Diets, and all the rules that come with them, are made to be broken.
You probably believe one of the following:
You’ve picked up so many bad ideas over the years you don’t know truth from fact. It probably started with your parents, then TV shows, then magazines, then more books, then Facebook groups (where the blind lead the blind). It’s no wonder you've struggled with food.
This one takes the cake! Pun intended.
When’s the last time you saw a program, a book, a guru promise “slow, unsexy weight loss.” I bet the answer is never. If you find one, let me know, and I might let you in for free.
The reason they don’t tell you that is because it doesn’t appeal to your natural instincts. You want everything now.
Well, I hate to break it to you, but good things take time.
It was instant gratification that got you into this mess in the first place. Think about it:
Instant gratification is what makes you eat when you don’t need to. It’s the reason you snack, you eat more than you should, and you eat for emotional reasons. It’s a quick solution to temporary pain.
Instant gratification is why you binge. It makes you feel good in the moment but that’s it.
Instant gratification is why you purged. It made you feel good in the moment.
Instant gratification is why you dieted. You wanted to lose weight yesterday.
So, what makes you think you can lose weight fast and keep it off?
It’s a myth and that myth ends here.
Either you work with the brain, or the brain will work against you.
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Keep in mind that not everyone needs to lose weight, should lose weight, or wants to lose weight? If you’re looking to lose weight and you have a history of overeating or binging, then you will probably start losing weight as soon as you start applying the concepts.
I can’t guarantee a certain number on the scale. You shouldn’t be chasing that anyway. Once you apply the concepts, the number kind of takes care of itself.
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