TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU HAVE TO DESERVE WHAT YOU WANT
I was listening to Tai Lopez again today (big fan of him, BTW) and he was quoting Charlie Munger, vice chairman of Berkshire Hathaway.
A big myth we hear is that you can everything you want today. Everything instant: microwave meals (which I eat), messages, e-mail, same-day shipping, home food delivery.
This has a pernicious effect. We want EVERYTHING to be here now, but this violates an immutable law of nature: you have to deserve what you want.
I saw someone deadlifting 400 lbs the other day, and I thought, "why can't I lift 400 lbs?" But then I remembered that I've only been deadlifting for six months. That guy had probably been deadlifting for six YEARS, not months.
How does this affect you and me? When I was struggling with weight and food, and binging and purging, I desperately wanted to weigh less. I wanted to be at my ideal weight TODAY.
I kept telling myself I was going to go on a strict diet so I could lose weight as fast as possible. This NEVER worked.
It only compounded the problem. One diet or fast led to more and more binging, and more and more desperate attempts to lose weight AFAP (as fast as possible).
What I ignored was that there is process. I wanted to have a lean, svelt body and I wanted to wear old clothes again, but I wanted to skip the process. I was looking for shortcuts.
Do you want to live in a world where hard work and persistence ISN'T rewarded. What if someone ate fast food and soda all day long and still had a great-looking body? Don't you want to live in a world where people are only rewarded when they go through the process?
The whole diet and weight loss industry takes advantage of our desire for instant gratification.
I teach gradual change and micro-changes. I don't teach overnight transformation. If you want to lose 20 pounds before Christmas, do NutriSystem. I prefer permanent change rather than quick fixes.
Munger was right. To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want.