On my long journey to recovery, I used to categorize days by how much I ate and how well I behaved in relation to food. I used to say, "today was good because I only x, or today was bad because I binged, purged, overeate, showed a lack of self-restraint.
It didn't matter what else happened that day. If I binged, it was a bad day. And if I ate right (which was rare- I fluctuated between 0 and 6000 for about 10 years) or if I didn't eat anything, I was good.
I was living in a black-and-white world. There was no in-between. I wanted to eat enough to have energy, but not so much that I didn't lose weight. That's the classic dilemma for dieters.
The problem was, I was never close to what I needed. Hitting 1800-2000 cal a day (just enough to lose 1-1.5 pounds a week) was like hitting a bull's eye. That's what I wanted, but after a while I realized that if I ate anything, I would eat everything.
If I were in that state of mind again, here's what I would do.
I would judge the day by multiple criteria: how well did I perform at my job, at school; how was my mindset; how well did I execute; did I follow good habits; did I do anything right?; did I try any experiments?; what went right and wrong?
I would show myself more self-compassion rather than beat myself up.
I would remind myself that other people have this problem and that it's something that I can overcome.
I would never tell myself "starting tomorrow I'll be different."
I would analyze what happened, how I can do better from now on, and then execute.
I spent years of my life doing the same thing
Overeating and binge eating are definitely something to fix, and soon, and it's not something to take lightly. But don't judge your life by this one thing. It only makes it worse. Focusing more attention on something takes more space in your head and it only makes the problem worse.
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